A publicity stunt where a man was dragged around on a leash by a woman in broad daylight got Ava Vidal thinking about the rise of nightclubs celebrating ‘dominant women’. Often described as an alpha female, she checks out one of them
Your ex-husband, the rapper Nas, put your wedding dress on his album cover. Why did he still have the dress?It’s not even the dress. The joke behind that is that it’s the slip to the petticoat to my dress. I think when I moved out I just left it. That’s all he had, poor thing.
You had a hit song with “Bossy” in 2006. Recently, Sheryl Sandberg started a campaign to ban the word. Do you think that word is bad for girls? Bossy? Give me a break. Obviously there are a lot more sensitive words that I can think of that I’ve been called. Bossy, to me, is not one of them. But to each his own.
As Laurie Halse Anderson’s “Speak” turns 15, the author says frank conversation about sexuality between parents and teens is more important than ever.
or is it that folks dont want to trust that folks like myself and the dope women of color sexual health network exist so they keep their kids in the dark. is the struggle to have folks honestly talk to our kids about sex, or is the struggle paying us to do that work a wage that is fair to basically give life saving information? hmm…
Pope Francis said Friday he took personal responsibility for the “evil” of priests who raped and molested children, asking forgiveness from victims and saying the church must be even bolder in its efforts to protect the young. It was the first time a pope has taken personal responsibility for…
tw: sexual abuse, catholicism, rape, molestation, children,
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What would be the best small vibe to use while having piv sex?
this is a good question. i’d have to ask how the vibrator would be used: for all folks involved, just one person? what sensation is desired: clitoral, perineum, nipple, testicular, anal, vaginal, etc. sensation? does it need to be waterproof? chargeable or w/batteries? is there a budget?
i’m often a more budget conscious writer re: class and access b/c i think you can find reviews and info on all the pricey luxe vibes easily. so, i think many folks may be familiar with a silver bullet. these usually are battery charged and have a handheld device that can increase or decrease in sensation. they are pretty standard and affordable (i got 2 for free going to a sex/uality event) so pretty accessible as well. they are not waterproof usually, and you can put different things on top of them for added fun/sensation/etc.
they get the job done, but i get tired of them fairly quickly myself, but i dont need much stimulus at my clit unless i’m going in for an orgasm, and in that case i want something stronger like the hitachi magic wand. there are some that come with a larger remote that can plug in several bullets for use on different body parts for different partners or on the same partner. each one has it’s own knob so different speeds for different ones. though these remotes can be heavy as they usually need 4 aa batteries, so keep that in mind.
you then have super small ones that use watch batteries. they are usually smaller/about the size of an inch or so and have a push button 1-speed vibration. these are similar to what you may find in an over-the-counter vibrating ring (usually for a phallic situation, often referred to as “cock rings” or “vibrating ring” on the package). my experience with these has been hit or miss depending on what i have entering vaginally. often, the ring doesnt hit where i need it to, but farther down where it is a distraction vs. a stimulant. in this case it could be suggested to turn the ring over so that it’s down under the penetrating object (i.e. for a penis up against the testicles, on a dildo where it may hit the perineum etc.). the ones over the counter seem to be one-shot deals though, so not for longer term use.
Depending on where you put the small vibe it may not stay there. i often have a problem w/this b/c 1. my fav position requires me to not be on my back and that means gravity is not on our side so it doesn’t often stay put, and 2. more arousal means more lube for me and that is another situation where it may not stay put.
i once loved for years a vibe called the ‘honey bear' and i havent seen it in a long while, but it was amazing, and pretty quiet too. easy to clean. and lots of my homies got them too after i raved about them. i went through 2 w/in about 3-4 years.
if you want something to penetrate vaginally that’s a different post w/more info needed (i.e. is person penetrating wearing a strap on and they want vaginal sensation too, person being penetrated, etc.). if for vaginally it depends on if the person using it is also being penetrated at the same time. if so it may be more comfortable and pleasurable to look for a longer vibe that is still slender and both folks may feel the sensations and may be a bit easier to get in. these are sometimes called “slim vibes" or "traditional vibrators’ and come in various sizes, are often a bit more firm, sometimes they have a bit of flexibility and are waterproof. they often have a dial at the bottom to adjust speed.
if you want something to penetrate anally ONLY go w/a vibe that has a larger bottom/plug as stuff can get caught in the anus and intestines if there is no way to remove/exit the item when not in use.
finally, keep in mind what your allergies may be. look for things that are phthalate free, you are comfortable with how to store and clean them, and take the batteries out. they will corrode if you keep them in there when not in use. here’s a list of toys i reviewed a while back (and some books) link NSFW.
On Saturday, March 29th, 2014, Rosa Clemente delivered the keynote lecture to over 2,400 attendees of the White Privilege Conference in Madison, WI.
rosa clemente, who i voted for in the 2008 election (yes i did NOT vote for obama/biden, why when 2 Black women, one who is a LatiNegra, who spoke about livable wage, ending occupation abroad, universal healthcare, (i.e. things important to me, same issue this past election when i voted for Peta Lindsey, another Black woman who had a Colombian immigrant as her vp) were on the ticket? didn’t know she ran, ask yourself why, who was invited to debates, who got air time, etc? if voting is important to you know ALL your options)
this is an interesting point, although mathematically inaccurate: assuming the women:men, 0.78:1 ratio is correct, men make $1.28 for every woman’s $1
A white man makes $1.34 for every dollar that a black man makes
A white man makes $1.52 for every dollar that a latino man makes
A white man makes $1.24 for every dollar that a white woman makes
A white man makes $1.44 for every dollar that a black woman makes
A white man makes $1.67 for every dollar that a latina woman makes
That’s some bullshit right there.
Let’s take it a step further. For every hour a white man works, a black woman has to work 86 minutes to earn as much money. 57.6 hours a week compared to the white man’s 40.
Take it another step further. Assuming a Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 job, from Thursday 12:45pm through Friday end of business, a white man gets paid for his work, a black woman is, by comparison, working for free.
This. I am tired of seing this numbers without thinking about woc. (via arobynsong)
and now, imagine the number for a Black Latina. i struggle w/even attempting to make that math work out b/c i think i’m trying to protect myself from what kind of harm that may bring to me at this moment, as an unemployed LatiNegra in the US.
It isn’t easy saying no to a partner when you aren’t in the mood. Sex experts share secrets for softening the blow
advice from white folks. b/c when you are a white writer you know white folks in the sexuality field and it’s rare you quote or seek out POC in the field (and when you do we get edited out, yes thishashappened to me multiple times, esp with writers who are white & writing articles for cosmo latina)
Tipping is not about generosity. Tipping isn’t about gratitude for good service. And tipping certainly isn’t about doing what’s right and fair for your fellow man. Tipping is about making sure you don’t mess up what you’re supposed to do.
this dude’s article is not something i’d share b/c his stance sounds a bit too much like abstinence promotion (which we experience throughout life) but i’m not a huge fan of promoting in certain ways. but this was useful:
The fact is, the human body is an imperfect organism. It’s not going to work perfectly every time you have sex (or do anything, for that matter). It’s nothing to be ashamed of, yet so many feel shame when it happens. Difficulty getting aroused, staying aroused or achieving orgasm happens to everyone at some time or another. Acknowledging this, and even expecting it from time to time, normalizes socially what is quite normal physiologically, which, in turn, minimizes shame and “performance anxiety.”
Being in a relationship where trust, reliance, and commitment have developed over time, where friendship is paramount and affection is unconditional, diminishes the shame of a less-than-stellar sexual experience. There’s no fear of losing your partner because you didn’t “rock their world this time.” There’s less anxiety over trying again, which makes sexual satisfaction much more likely in the future. What’s more, couples who communicate openly and honestly are more able to give (and apply) loving feedback about sexual needs.
On Thursday, the European Parliament passed a crucial net neutrality law that will prevent Internet service providers (ISPs) from charging certain sites more to host their content. The idea is that all Internet sources should have to pay equal amount to get equal service, and not held hostage to the whim of powerful telecom companies.
El Cine Cubano! will screen two films that explore gender, race and the politics of sexuality before and following the Cuban Revolution with the premiere of “From Maids to Companeras” and “Lucia” (Part 3) on Sunday, April 6, from 3 to 5 p.m., in the Bozeman Public Library Community Room. “From Maids to Companeras” is the story of the transformation of the lives of three Afro-Cuban women who were domestic workers before the Cuban revolution, and after the revolution through education, health and community development, gained successful professional careers to become a judge, a poet and a cook. The interviews are especially enlightening about life for many women before and after the Cuban Revolution. Paired with “Lucia,” award-winning Cuban filmmaker Humberto Sola’s compelling narrative told by three Lucias illuminating Cuba’s social and political tranformations during the 20th Century. The third and most contemporary Lucia exemplifies the powerful changes undergoing Cuban society as she fights for the right to an education in this examination of gender and sexual politics during Cuba’s 1961 Literacy Campaign.
Despite the good intentions, the biopic misleads and distorts his role in the farm workers movement
rejects the multiethnic community that made up the farm workers movement in favor of a simplistic notion that Mexicans did all the work. Creating a hero comes at the expense of depicting an entire social movement.
film even fails to represent accurately the supporting cast of Mexican American activists in Cesar’s orbit. Gilbert Padilla, played by Yancey Arias, and Dolores Huerta, played by Rosario Dawson, come off as nothing more than a yes-man and yes-woman to Chavez when, in fact, they were distinguished organizers in their own right and effective innovators of new strategies, including the boycott. Only Helen Chavez, Cesar’s wife, is presented as a character with her own mind and story, a tribute to America Ferrera’s standout performance.
Discussing communication, consent and sex positivity By Stephanie Simko, News Editor One of the great things about coming to university, apart from learning and attaining a degree, is to meet new people. Meeting new people can result in a variety of relationships – casual acquaintances, close friends, and sexual relationships are just to name a few. University is a time in which many young people explore their sexuality; while it is important to learn the ins and outs of your respective program, it is equally important to be knowledgeable about safe sex, consent and communication. Last week, Jayal Chung of the Gender Issues Centre, Jake Hume and Sarah DiBiagio of Pride Central and Jonathan Smith of the Women’s Studies department hosted a presentation called “Let’s Talk About Good Sex”. The focus of the discussion was the importance of communication and consent in relationships, sex positivity and having empowered sex while navigating a strong rape […]
For many tourists visiting Peru, the hotel doorman is likely to be their first encounter with an African-Peruvian. It is a job usually filled by young black men in Peru. They also often occupy roles as chauffeurs or coffin bearers.
For activist Jorge Ramírez, this is another example of the structural racism in Peruvian society, which means black people have extremely limited job prospects. “The prejudice is that that’s all we’re good for,” said Ramírez, president of the Black Association for the Defence and Promotion of Human Rights (Asonedh).
Now, it is hoped, change is at hand. For the first time, a government body will be set up dedicated solely to policies that favour Peru’s African-descended population.