that’s MORE WORK for us esp if we are POC professors or adjunct. we don’t get paid extra as adjunct instructors to do MORE work we are ALREADY severely lowly paid for.
just keep this in mind. instead, perhaps, ask if your extra credit could be to help a student who needs help in class (i.e. tutoring in the class if you’ve missed absences but have a b and desire an a, helping w/editing if you are good w/that, scheduling a study session for the final and taking the lead to organize a study sheet for the class) basically get creative in a way that could HELP your professor (esp your adjunct one) and give you a skill you can also use on your working resume.
don’t just make it all about YOUR success, think about how your request impacts others too.
Isadora Kosofsky is a 19-year-old photographer from Los Angeles who’s been drawn to an unlikely trio of subjects. For her project “The Three,” she documented the lives of Jeanie, Adina and Will, three individuals, all over the age of 80, wh…
so then i read this.
i wouldn’t mind this, but i’d need to be w/both of them not just one. sharing all around
Hi! I’m the founder of The Ultimate Asexual Playlist, which is a blog dedicated to asexual and aromantic music. Since we just started, I was wondering if you’d be willing to give a signal boost for our Mod Search?
Hey! Are you Aro/Ace spectrum and a music-lover? Then we want YOU! The Ultimate Asexual Playlist is looking for moderators to help post and/or reblog asexual and aromantic songs. (Please note that we are only looking for Aro and/or Ace spectrum bloggers, please and thanks.)
Mod Application (please send as a submission or fanmail to Haxaaya)
Are you Aromantic and/or Asexual Spectrum? (please specify):
Favourite Genre/s of Music:
Short Mod bio (to go on the about page):
Email (so I can add you to the blog):
At this time we’re looking for 3-5 moderators.
[Also, we’re looking esp. for DMAB and PoC mods, since we’ve had mostly white and/or DFAB applicants]
Latino elders who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) face additional challenges as they age, compounded by barriers rooted in their racial and ethnic identities, as well as LGBT stigma and discrimination.
ya’ll know of brass bands of black folks or poc in bk esp in bedstuy? all the responses we’ve gotten have been from white folks in bk and this is for a film festival for black kids in bk in the summer. the theme is film and music and we want performances before each film.
first film is abt mardi gras and history tied to pan-african and native cultures.
other films about: soul, gospel music, civil rights mvmt. ideas please let me know! modest honorarium offered.
(This was written late last year; I pitched it a few places but received little interest. I’m posting it here because, well, it’s an important conversation.) As I write this my mother is fas…
my mom is in advanced stage of Alzheimer’s, it’s like having a 4 year old, she cant bathe, remember to eat, how to find things, where to go, basic functions of independence, and we have no money, only her disability, and options are to send her to puerto rico where cost of living is less expensive. all the folks we know in homes in PR have not lasted long. i know when we send her it will be only a few more years we have her here.
deciding to be your parent’s child and NOT their caretaker is a fucking hard decision, but one that a homie helped me understand and realize is the best mode for coping, healing, and mourning. homie said (and i paraphrase) “if you can, you want to be able to mourn your mom’s death not feel guilty that you are relieved she’s gone [bc caretaking responsibilities are over]”
you are not alone homies caring for parents and elders.
Women’s reproductive health may never be the same, thanks to a biomedical engineer and his first-of-its-kind intravaginal ring that reliably delivers an antiretroviral drug and a contraceptive for months. The ring is designed to protect against HIV and herpes as well as unwanted pregnancy. It will be the first device with the potential to offer this protection to be tested in women. The ring, being manufactured now, soon will undergo its first test in women.
Since its birth in the New York ballroom scene of the 1960s, voguing has made a few notable entrées into mainstream culture, such as Madonna’s song “Vogue” and the 1990 documentary Paris Is Burning. But French artist Frédéric Nauczyciel’s portraits of modern voguers highlight the ballroom scene’s continued relevance as…
A publicity stunt where a man was dragged around on a leash by a woman in broad daylight got Ava Vidal thinking about the rise of nightclubs celebrating ‘dominant women’. Often described as an alpha female, she checks out one of them
Your ex-husband, the rapper Nas, put your wedding dress on his album cover. Why did he still have the dress?It’s not even the dress. The joke behind that is that it’s the slip to the petticoat to my dress. I think when I moved out I just left it. That’s all he had, poor thing.
You had a hit song with “Bossy” in 2006. Recently, Sheryl Sandberg started a campaign to ban the word. Do you think that word is bad for girls? Bossy? Give me a break. Obviously there are a lot more sensitive words that I can think of that I’ve been called. Bossy, to me, is not one of them. But to each his own.
As Laurie Halse Anderson’s “Speak” turns 15, the author says frank conversation about sexuality between parents and teens is more important than ever.
or is it that folks dont want to trust that folks like myself and the dope women of color sexual health network exist so they keep their kids in the dark. is the struggle to have folks honestly talk to our kids about sex, or is the struggle paying us to do that work a wage that is fair to basically give life saving information? hmm…
Pope Francis said Friday he took personal responsibility for the “evil” of priests who raped and molested children, asking forgiveness from victims and saying the church must be even bolder in its efforts to protect the young. It was the first time a pope has taken personal responsibility for…
tw: sexual abuse, catholicism, rape, molestation, children,
Are you a Caribbean woman or man who lives in the Bronx? Would you like to share your opinions about health issues facing the Caribbean community in New York? Please join The Caribbean Women’s Health Association for an informal conversation about NYC Caribbean families’ choices and…
What would be the best small vibe to use while having piv sex?
this is a good question. i’d have to ask how the vibrator would be used: for all folks involved, just one person? what sensation is desired: clitoral, perineum, nipple, testicular, anal, vaginal, etc. sensation? does it need to be waterproof? chargeable or w/batteries? is there a budget?
i’m often a more budget conscious writer re: class and access b/c i think you can find reviews and info on all the pricey luxe vibes easily. so, i think many folks may be familiar with a silver bullet. these usually are battery charged and have a handheld device that can increase or decrease in sensation. they are pretty standard and affordable (i got 2 for free going to a sex/uality event) so pretty accessible as well. they are not waterproof usually, and you can put different things on top of them for added fun/sensation/etc.
they get the job done, but i get tired of them fairly quickly myself, but i dont need much stimulus at my clit unless i’m going in for an orgasm, and in that case i want something stronger like the hitachi magic wand. there are some that come with a larger remote that can plug in several bullets for use on different body parts for different partners or on the same partner. each one has it’s own knob so different speeds for different ones. though these remotes can be heavy as they usually need 4 aa batteries, so keep that in mind.
you then have super small ones that use watch batteries. they are usually smaller/about the size of an inch or so and have a push button 1-speed vibration. these are similar to what you may find in an over-the-counter vibrating ring (usually for a phallic situation, often referred to as “cock rings” or “vibrating ring” on the package). my experience with these has been hit or miss depending on what i have entering vaginally. often, the ring doesnt hit where i need it to, but farther down where it is a distraction vs. a stimulant. in this case it could be suggested to turn the ring over so that it’s down under the penetrating object (i.e. for a penis up against the testicles, on a dildo where it may hit the perineum etc.). the ones over the counter seem to be one-shot deals though, so not for longer term use.
Depending on where you put the small vibe it may not stay there. i often have a problem w/this b/c 1. my fav position requires me to not be on my back and that means gravity is not on our side so it doesn’t often stay put, and 2. more arousal means more lube for me and that is another situation where it may not stay put.
i once loved for years a vibe called the ‘honey bear' and i havent seen it in a long while, but it was amazing, and pretty quiet too. easy to clean. and lots of my homies got them too after i raved about them. i went through 2 w/in about 3-4 years.
if you want something to penetrate vaginally that’s a different post w/more info needed (i.e. is person penetrating wearing a strap on and they want vaginal sensation too, person being penetrated, etc.). if for vaginally it depends on if the person using it is also being penetrated at the same time. if so it may be more comfortable and pleasurable to look for a longer vibe that is still slender and both folks may feel the sensations and may be a bit easier to get in. these are sometimes called “slim vibes" or "traditional vibrators’ and come in various sizes, are often a bit more firm, sometimes they have a bit of flexibility and are waterproof. they often have a dial at the bottom to adjust speed.
if you want something to penetrate anally ONLY go w/a vibe that has a larger bottom/plug as stuff can get caught in the anus and intestines if there is no way to remove/exit the item when not in use.
finally, keep in mind what your allergies may be. look for things that are phthalate free, you are comfortable with how to store and clean them, and take the batteries out. they will corrode if you keep them in there when not in use. here’s a list of toys i reviewed a while back (and some books) link NSFW.
On Saturday, March 29th, 2014, Rosa Clemente delivered the keynote lecture to over 2,400 attendees of the White Privilege Conference in Madison, WI.
rosa clemente, who i voted for in the 2008 election (yes i did NOT vote for obama/biden, why when 2 Black women, one who is a LatiNegra, who spoke about livable wage, ending occupation abroad, universal healthcare, (i.e. things important to me, same issue this past election when i voted for Peta Lindsey, another Black woman who had a Colombian immigrant as her vp) were on the ticket? didn’t know she ran, ask yourself why, who was invited to debates, who got air time, etc? if voting is important to you know ALL your options)